Category Archives: Personal Experiences

The Past

The past. It has always intrigued me that
everyone, yes everyone has a past. If life
can be compared to the University of
Ghana where I am currently a student, “the
past” will be a UGRC ( University of Ghana
Required Course). You don’t agree with
me? Talk to a rich man, and he’ll launch
into a history of his life, how poor he had
been as a child, working his way through
life with the help of God before reaching
where he is now. Or talk to the “wonderful
Christian” sister or brother and he’ll tell you
the horrid past which Christ saved them
from. Or better yet, talk to that confident
person you admire so much, and ten to one
his first reaction will be “Hm, it hasn’t
always been like this. I’ve gone through a
lot of panic attacks which I can’t begin to
tell you about”. Those who have not had
any of these problems probably have a few
secrets the world will probably never know.
After all, as Fyodor Dostoevsky said, and I
quote, “There are things which a man is
afraid to tell even to himself, and every
decent man has a number of such things
stored away in his mind”. Everyone has a
secret.
My point is, they all don’t matter. At least
to Jesus Christ. Whatever your past, He’s
never surprised. Anyway, He already
knows all about it. So I suggest you trust
Him that whatever your past is, He’s
always ready to receive and forgive us.
That’s what He came for: to erase our past,
yes erase it, and give us a new life. (“So if
anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation:
everything has become new!” ( 1 Cor. 5.
17, NRV)
From my experience with God, you should
just trust Him with not only your past but
your present and your future as well; “Cast
your burden upon Him for He cares for
you.”( 1 Pet. 5:7). It took me about five
years to really get this Scripture, that I
don’t have to a care in the world because
of Christ. My problem was believing it. For
so many years I didn’t believe this. I kept
likening God to a man, thinking He will also
disappoint me, and so I didn’t expect much
from Him. How shallow! It pains me to
think all the lost opportunities in the past
that I could have served Him, but didn’t.
And yet I tried so hard. Now I know I don’t
have to do anything to win His favor by
working so hard. He already loves me, He
always has and He always will. And also
He loves you. As I saw on someone’s
Whats App profile, “Jesus died for you
alone, trust me”( Shout-outs to Priscilla,
Legon, Hilla Limann Hall, AGCM). And for
me, and everyone else who will ever trust
Him enough to give their all to Him. Not
half, like I did at first ( this will come as a
shock to all who have ever known me. I
think I started to, but I got a bit obsessed
with the “issues of life”*Matt. 13: 18-23*
too much) but their all.
That is the way to live the true Christian
life.
“The joy of the Lord is our strength”

Why Are Some Christian Parents Unchristian Towards Their Own Kids?

Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV
[1] Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
[2] Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
[3] That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
[4] And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Colossians 3:21 KJV
[21] Fathers, provoke not your children to anger , lest they be discouraged.

Some Christian parents think when it come to their children, Ephesians 6:1 is all that matters. They don’t continue reading to the next verses which talk about their responsibility to their kids. They think the child just has to be an extension of them, following rules blindly up to the time they become adults.

Such parents find it difficult to empathize with their children. Granted, a rebellious child should not be necessarily tolerated, but the manner in which parents respond to certain behaviors in their fallible kids can either break them (the kids) or make them.

Life is hard, and even adults cannot claim to have figured it out yet. Let alone their children. Some parents hold their children to high standards of the Bible, which they themselves do not uphold. Some parents are totally unoriginal when it comes to their kids.

For example, the mother who keeps quoting Bible verses to her teenage child, but will never ask the child how was her day at school, or how is her social life, what the child’s fears and dreams are in life, but keep shoving the Bible in her face in the name of
Proverbs 22:6 KJV
[6] Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

How do you expect your child to grow up in the “way she should go”, if she is thinking there is an invisible God who is ‘always breathing down her neck’, but her visible mother doesn’t necessarily relate to her? How will she correlate the idea of a true, loving God who she can’t see, to a mother or father who doesn’t show the loving care every child needs in their life?

It’s a wonder how surprised such parents are when their kids grow up and stay away from churches in their adult life. Christianity is practical, I know that. I also know you can’t call yourself a good Christian and exclude the Bible from you and your family’s life.

But Christian parents, take Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21 seriously. Remember that the verses you rely on so heavily towards the upbringing of The Lord is on a condition. Let’s read it again.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

Children are obliged to obey their parents in The Lord. If you are always skulking/scowling towards the child while reading the Bible, where does that leave Joy? Cos the Bible commands us to rejoice? If you are always telling the child what she’s doing that is so bad, reminding her how imperfect she is, where does that leave Love? The Bible says :
1 Corinthians 13:6 ESV*
it [love] does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

These are just a few examples. In my own experience my parent kept shoving the Bible down my throat since I was eight years old, not taking her time, accusing me of what was in the Bible. Needless to say, it was hard on me because I grew up thinking I was the worst sinner alive. The Bible says we’ve all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, but I grew up thinking nothing I ever did was nice to God because my parent didn’t even seem to think the Bible was powerful enough to change me, and kept going on and on about it. It’s a sad situation for anyone to grow up thinking God’s love is conditional based on what a supposedly Christian adult told them.

I will end this with a quote:

GOD AND SOCIAL ANXIETY

I’ve given myself a diagnosis of having social anxiety. Going outside is difficult for me. Unless it is completely relevant like church and lectures, you will find me at home, reading or writing or watching movies.

However, I’m also wondering what God thinks about my self-diagnosis. I’ve been depressed before et al but with this social anxiety it stems from unpleasant experiences with people. Thus, these unpleasant experiences tell me that if I’m in the same situations again, a similar unpleasant incident will happen. But I want you to be the judge of these few Bible verses along with me. This is my idea of what God thinks about social anxiety in the Bible.

1.*Proverbs 29:25 ESV
The fear of man lays a snare,
but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.
I think if you really trust God, there is no room in your life to fear man.

2. Proverbs 26:13
The sluggard says, “There is a lion in the road! There is a lion in the streets!”
I know the last thing you need is to hear you are lazy as well as socially anxious. But that is what the Bible says. The lion here refers to people.

3. Numbers 14:9
Only do not rebel against the Lord. And do not fear the people of the land, for they are bread for us. Their protection is removed from them, and the Lord is with us; do not fear them.”
Human beings are like putty in your hands if you are Christians. They are mortal, but God is immortal and lives in you.

4. Job 4:6
Is not your fear of God your confidence,
and the integrity of your ways your hope?
Our fear should be of God, not of man.

5. Matthew 10:26
“So have no fear of them, for nothing is covered that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known.
Everybody has their own secret anxieties.

6. Matthew 10:28
And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.
People can make fun of your body, but they can’t do further than that.

7. Romans 8:15
For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”
Fear should be a thing of the past now you are a Christian.

8. 1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.
The Bible commands us to love. It is difficult to love someone who makes you feel anxious.

9. Luke 12:7
Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.
You are as good as anybody else. No need to be anxious.

10. Joshua 10:25
And Joshua said to them, “Do not be afraid or dismayed; be strong and courageous. For thus the Lord will do to all your enemies against whom you fight.”
The enemies can include fear, depression, and anxiety.

11. Luke 1:30
And the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.
If you have found favor with God Himself, who else is there to be afraid of? Is it because we can’t see God but we see people?

*All verses from ESV

LYING

Matthew 5:10-12
“Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
“Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

Aw, God I feel terrible. How many times we read the bible but don’t take it seriously enough?

About an hour or two ago, my sister received an unwanted visitor who did not call her on the phone and presumptuously arrived at our doorstep. She asked me to lie that she wasn’t around or she would never talk to me again. I told her no earlier, but about forty-five minutes later he was still there shouting her name. In a passive-aggressive style I told him he should have called her, she wasn’t around, and he could come later. I feel like such a fool. I chose her over Christ!

Annoyingly, later someone knocked and my sis was scared that the guy was back! What was I thinking? Well, I’ve asked for forgiveness and all.

Then I saw a devotional email about the above verse. Thank God for forgiveness.