Why Are Some Christian Parents Unchristian Towards Their Own Kids?

Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV
[1] Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
[2] Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
[3] That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
[4] And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Colossians 3:21 KJV
[21] Fathers, provoke not your children to anger , lest they be discouraged.

Some Christian parents think when it come to their children, Ephesians 6:1 is all that matters. They don’t continue reading to the next verses which talk about their responsibility to their kids. They think the child just has to be an extension of them, following rules blindly up to the time they become adults.

Such parents find it difficult to empathize with their children. Granted, a rebellious child should not be necessarily tolerated, but the manner in which parents respond to certain behaviors in their fallible kids can either break them (the kids) or make them.

Life is hard, and even adults cannot claim to have figured it out yet. Let alone their children. Some parents hold their children to high standards of the Bible, which they themselves do not uphold. Some parents are totally unoriginal when it comes to their kids.

For example, the mother who keeps quoting Bible verses to her teenage child, but will never ask the child how was her day at school, or how is her social life, what the child’s fears and dreams are in life, but keep shoving the Bible in her face in the name of
Proverbs 22:6 KJV
[6] Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

How do you expect your child to grow up in the “way she should go”, if she is thinking there is an invisible God who is ‘always breathing down her neck’, but her visible mother doesn’t necessarily relate to her? How will she correlate the idea of a true, loving God who she can’t see, to a mother or father who doesn’t show the loving care every child needs in their life?

It’s a wonder how surprised such parents are when their kids grow up and stay away from churches in their adult life. Christianity is practical, I know that. I also know you can’t call yourself a good Christian and exclude the Bible from you and your family’s life.

But Christian parents, take Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21 seriously. Remember that the verses you rely on so heavily towards the upbringing of The Lord is on a condition. Let’s read it again.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

Children are obliged to obey their parents in The Lord. If you are always skulking/scowling towards the child while reading the Bible, where does that leave Joy? Cos the Bible commands us to rejoice? If you are always telling the child what she’s doing that is so bad, reminding her how imperfect she is, where does that leave Love? The Bible says :
1 Corinthians 13:6 ESV*
it [love] does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

These are just a few examples. In my own experience my parent kept shoving the Bible down my throat since I was eight years old, not taking her time, accusing me of what was in the Bible. Needless to say, it was hard on me because I grew up thinking I was the worst sinner alive. The Bible says we’ve all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, but I grew up thinking nothing I ever did was nice to God because my parent didn’t even seem to think the Bible was powerful enough to change me, and kept going on and on about it. It’s a sad situation for anyone to grow up thinking God’s love is conditional based on what a supposedly Christian adult told them.

I will end this with a quote:


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