Open Secret

Galatians 2:1 KJV
Then fourteen years after I went up again to Jerusalem with Barnabas, and took Titus with me also.

It is an open secret that everyone has their own journey, but we seem to forget that and instead play the comparison game. We compare ourselves to our classmates, our colleagues, our co-workers as though just because they are around us our destinies must take the same course. Christ had 30 years to prepare for a three-year ministry while his peers were marrying and procreating. Paul spent fourteen years after his conversion in the background before becoming the famous Paul we now know him to be. Have your own success metric, and judge yourself by them, not by someone else’s. “Don’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 20” (Unknown).

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Open Secret

Galatians 2:1 KJV
Then fourteen years after I went up again to Jerusalem with Barnabas, and took Titus with me also.

It is an open secret that everyone has their own journey, but we seem to forget that and instead play the comparison game. We compare ourselves to our classmates, our colleagues, our co-workers as though just because they are around us our destinies must take the same course. Christ had 30 years to prepare for a three-year ministry while his peers were marrying and procreating. Paul spent fourteen years after his conversion in the background before becoming the famous Paul we now know him to be. Have your own success metric, and judge yourself by them, not by someone else’s. “Don’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s Chapter 20” (Unknown).

Contentment

1 Timothy 6:6-7 KJV
But godliness with contentment is great gain. [7] For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.

When you “ask yourself, ‘What do I need to be happy?’, chances are not only do you need very little, but you actually already have most of it. While you might have a long list of wants, recognise these for what they are. Don’t let them get in the way of your happiness” [Domonique Bertolucci]. “The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less” (Socrates).

Stuck in a Role

Matthew 13:55,57 KJV
Is not this the carpenter’s son? is not his mother called Mary? and his brethren, James, and Joses, and Simon, and Judas? [57] And they were offended in him.

When you have been stuck in a role for so long, when it is time for your breakthrough people who are used to seeing you play that role will do their best to keep you there. People like comfort, and it makes people uncomfortable when they see someone do what they did not have them pegged for, what they did not expect them to be able to do. But your life is your own responsibility; either you live it up to people’s expectations of you, or to God’s intended plan for your life. “If their name isn’t God, their opinion doesn’t matter and their approval isn’t needed” (Unknown).

Regret

1 Samuel 16:1 KJV
And the Lord said unto Samuel, How long wilt thou mourn for Saul,

It would take a superhuman to never have regrets about the past, but it is not good to keep mourning things in the past over which we have zero control. Let the past be the past, and focus your energy on making the present something you will not have to look back on with further regret. “Life is too short, time is too precious, and the stakes are too high to dwell on what might have been” (Hilary Clinton).

Clichés

Job 2:13 KJV
So they sat down with him upon the ground seven days and seven nights, and none spake a word unto him: for they saw that his grief was very great.

Usually when someone comes to us with problems or personal grief our first instinct is to give advice or say something meaningless to appear supportive. Silence for some reason is uncomfortable for many people but sometimes good listening and empathy skills is worth more than a thousand meaningless clichés. “I would rather my heart be without words than my words be without heart” (Lamar Boschman).

Tear-jerkers

Job 1:9-10 KJV
Then Satan answered the Lord , and said, Doth Job fear God for nought? [10] Hast not thou made an hedge about him, and about his house, and about all that he hath on every side? thou hast blessed the work of his hands, and his substance is increased in the land.

Most Christians if honest prefer ‘worldly’ movies to Christian-themed movies for entertainment because the latter are usually tear-jerkers. Anything that could go wrong in a person’s life usually happens in religious movies, usually to turn their minds to God. Fortunately or unfortunately this reflects reality. Unless a person stays firm in faith through negative times, all other aspects of the Christian life is a lip-service. You would not know how much you love God if you have not gone through things guaranteed to make you hate him or lose faith in Him. “A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials” (Lucius Annaeus Seneca).